I have found with having 3 children under the age seven, that it is essential to have one-on-one time with each of them. No matter their age, finding time to focus on just them.
I had a great “date” with Andrew, my 4 year old. He is my sensitive, perceptive and full of love child. He got diagnosed with Aspergers last year so there have been some challenges for sure, but he steals my heart with his big blue eyes and contagious smile.
He will be attending a developmental school in our county that has Pre-K for any child with an IEP (Individual Education Plan). He will be able to get his therapies and go to preschool full-time, but he has to wear a uniform. So, that in itself is going to be interesting, but I think it will be good. I was online checking out sales online and a store at Concord Mills (our local outlet mall) was having a huge uniform sale. I showed him the uniforms on the computer and he had to process it for sure. I asked if he would like to have a special date with mommy to look at uniforms. He paused and said, “just me and you mommy?” My heart just melted. So off we went to shop.
It was the most amazing time and I treasure that in my heart. No tantrums. No fixation on certain things. It was a blessing and I just prayed and asked God to give us this special time. We walked through the store and held hands and I involved him with picking out the clothes. He was so excited. What a gift God gave me with Andrew.
I am currently reading, The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman. What a great read and I truly believe in the love languages for your children and for your marriage. It is so important to speak your child’s love language and continually fill their love tank.
Take time out of your busy schedule to spend that one-on-one time with each child. It doesn’t have to be shopping, but just allowing them to see that at that moment, they are the only ones that matter in your life.
Invest YOUR time in your kids. That is the greatest gift you can give them.